Myth #1: "God has one woman picked out for you to marry.You are destined to be with her, and God will guide you to her." Good luck finding this one in the Bible.We get a lot of questions from young Christian men and women who are “not yet married.” Their season of life awakens many desires and hopes, uncertainties and insecurities, and tricky pastoral questions.To help find the right questions, we called on three not-yet-married friends who gave some time to thinking about the challenges faced by singles: Lore Ferguson, Paul Maxwell, and the recently engaged Marshall Segal.SEE ALSO: Church Matchmaking With Natalie Grant: Congregations Help Singles Find Soul Mates in Upcoming Show. We are almost four hundred strong and counting, and I tossed out this question: SEE ALSO: What Not to Say to Singles They do more harm than good. She focuses her attention on women who are in hurting marriages or find themselves divorcing. Within moments, I heard back from many, and not one woman was able to honestly answer with “really well.”SEE ALSO: How You Can Start A Singles Ministry Church, we have a dilemma on our hands. And I believe singles are an often misunderstood group. We can be a tough group to serve, for many reasons. There are some myths out there that people assume to be gospel about dating.
There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.
We ended up with these questions: The Bible commands Christians to marry “in the Lord,” that is, to marry other Christians (1 Corinthians ; 2 Corinthians ).
But in a day when so much nominalism passes for authentic maturity, give us a few simple marks of spiritual growth that a man or woman should be looking for in a potential spouse.
A spiritual community where everyone knows and supports each other is a wonderful thing, but it can be our undoing when it comes to dating.
Here’s how to beat the obstacles thrown into your dating path by church leaders and fellow congregants…